If your baby is crying, go to them. Don’t stand on the other side of the door, waiting and hoping for them to learn something. These little tiny humans need us to feed them, to clean them, to keep them safe, and they also need us to regulate their emotions. They cry because they want something from us. If holding your baby, or touching your baby, or singing softly in their ear is going to stop their distress then do it! Don’t hold back. Your baby will not learn anything from crying, they learn to control their emotions from caregivers who help them alleviate their distress. They are asking for your help, go to them. There is a reason that mothers are so distressed by their infant’s cries – it helps mobilise you to do whatever it takes to stop them from crying. Don’t ignore those instincts.