We track our babies’ progress against many milestones over their first year of life. But one of the most important milestones they can achieve during this time is least prominent for mothers and their health care providers - the development of a secure attachment bond. A secure attachment boils down to the infant’s trust in … Continue reading Building Trust in the First Year of Life
Babies and their Bad Habits
It's so easy to get sucked into the lies about forming bad habits with babies, isn't it? New mothers are a vulnerable group, so desperate to do everything right for their baby no matter the cost (see: sleep deprivation). And since we have been thrown off the deep end into this whole mothering thing, we … Continue reading Babies and their Bad Habits
Parents of Difficult Babies – Your Hard Work is Not in Vain
Sensitive. Intense. Frequent negative emotions. High activity level. Withdraws or doesn't easily adapt to new situations. Irregular feeding and sleep routine. If these terms describe your child then it is likely he or she is what child psychologists would call ‘difficult’. This is in contrast to ‘easy’ children (generally positive moods, routine sleep/wake and feeding … Continue reading Parents of Difficult Babies – Your Hard Work is Not in Vain
To the Mothers of High Needs Babies
To my fellow mothers of high needs babies. I know it often feels like we have drawn the short straw. You look around and see babies who are sleeping through the night (while yours wakes 5+ times a night at 8 months old), babies who sit placidly while their mothers engage in conversation (as yours never. … Continue reading To the Mothers of High Needs Babies
Does an Education Equal Unhappiness for Mothers?
Today's mothers are more educated than ever before. This is no doubt an advantage for the little ones that we are raising, but it might not be so beneficial for our own well-being as mothers. A mother’s level of education is known to influence the way that she parents – mothers who are more educated … Continue reading Does an Education Equal Unhappiness for Mothers?
On Crying Babies
If your baby is crying, go to them. Don't stand on the other side of the door, waiting and hoping for them to learn something. These little tiny humans need us to feed them, to clean them, to keep them safe, and they also need us to regulate their emotions. They cry because they want … Continue reading On Crying Babies
Sleep Like a Husband
This meme came across my Facebook the other day and it made me laugh because it is SO true! First of all, I don't know why people use the phrase “sleep like a baby” to imply good sleep. Oh really, you slept like a baby – so you were unable to fall asleep on your … Continue reading Sleep Like a Husband
The Mother Who Knew Too Much
For a good number of years I spent my time intensely studying child development - what's normal, what's abnormal, and how parents can help or hinder development. It would seem that I would thusly be very well prepared to raise a child of my own, as I am considered an “expert” in the academic field … Continue reading The Mother Who Knew Too Much